A Planning Partner
Planning a wedding can be very lonely. Not always, but occasionally we have clients where one person is more involved in the planning than the other. You’ve found your forever partner - but what about your planning partner? And don’t get us wrong - we aren’t saying this in a bad way… it’s just the truth. Maybe they have a more demanding schedule or job. Maybe it just isn’t their “thing” and not something they are interested in. Maybe they truly don’t have an opinion on the details like you do. Almost always - they trust your judgment and want you to be happy. Great!
But who will you chat through the tiniest of details with if you have a life partner who isn’t as tuned in? That’s where a planning partner comes in. We can be your plus-one on all the things and help you brainstorm, troubleshoot, spell check, and more! As a planning partner, we might help you with:
Finding the right venue - that meets both your aesthetic dreams, and your budget.
Picking out the right vendors - we know ALL the questions you should be asking.
Saying yes to the dress - we don’t have to be at the appointment, but we can help guide you to the right shop, give suggestions on who to invite to go with you, and give tips to get you ready for your appointment.
General Aesthetic - we can ensure your invitations match your flowers, which match your general aesthetic - and everything in between.
Picking up the Slack - need help with some of the more time consuming tasks? We’ve got you covered.
A second set of eyes - to make sure we proof read invitations, check the website links, finish the registry, and keep eyes on the budget.
Keep you calm - we can help be the buffer between you, the vendors, eager family members, and so much more. We are here to keep you calm and stress-free - this is a joyous occasion!
Should we say more? (Because we will, if you need!)
We know from personal experience - planning weddings for others, and for ourselves - that sometimes as the “lead planner” in the relationship, it can be lonely when it feels like your other half isn’t as interested or invested in the process as you are. We see the look of defeat when clients ask their partners for thoughts or opinions, or for them to choose one hors d’oeuvre or flower over another. And look, we get it. This isn’t everyone’s thing.
But, if you need the extra set of eyes, or ears, or hands along the way - we are here to take care of all you need. Want to engage your partner in a meaningful way without putting pressure on them to do more than they want? We suggest the following:
Ask what areas of the planning process they are most interested in. We often hear a partner say “I really care about _______, but I have ZERO opinions on ________”. Focus on these areas with your partner and put them “in charge” - this will also take some of the load off your plate.
Schedule an hour or two once a week, once a month - whenever it’s convenient for you both. Use this block of time to knock out urgent items on the task list. In the beginning it will be things like getting the guest list together, later it will be things like finalize the menu and seating charts.
If you’ve given your partner some tasks to accomplish, set clear deadlines and parameters. This will help keep stress low, and things running smoothly - especially if they aren’t involved in the day-to-day conversations surrounding the wedding.
Make sure you have someone in your “camp” who IS interested in all the details. If it isn’t a planning partner - find a friend or family member who you can bounce ideas off of and get excited with as things come together.
Give your partner some grace. (And maybe book yourself a massage for all the hard work!)
Have questions, or want to chat about this more? Drop us a line, we’d love to schedule a virtual coffee!
Post Photo Credit: BG Photography Louisville